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That's quite interesting! I can imagine kinks being quite sensual instead of sexual, like cuddling under bondage, and such. Whether that arousal is directed at others or if one is willing engage in sexual acts for a sexual partner depends on that individual's orientations and sex tolerances. And if it's sexual, then, well, add those parts back in. Typically the kink and it's effects are the same, you just take the sex and/or arousal out of it. It depends on the type of kink and type of people participating in it. Let you zone out for a while or create nice aesthetic effects. None of which need to be sexual.Ĭausing/receiving pain can be pleasing without causing arousal.īondage and sensory play can just feel nice and comforting. Doing chores and giving/following orders. Petplay and ageplay for example, I frequently see these be nonsexual for some aces and allos.ĭominance and submission can include life guidance and domestic service. Yes for many it will be a way of arousal, be they ace or allo, but it's not like that for everyone and one can have certain kinks be sexual and other kinks be nonsexual at the same time. People tend to be oblivous to the fact that kink isn't always sexual. I'm a kinky aroace and kink isn't sexual for me.

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So what I guess I actually just wanted to say is, that there must be some sort of feeling, that makes people like their fetish, but I'm not sure how to name that feeling (maybe some sort of libido then? But I'm not sure wheter others would agree with my definition of libido, so it's hard to compare it). It doesn't work without that special feeling, except if one is a really insane person and like to torture others for fun or something like that or one is desprated for control or influence, cause they usually don't got it.īut that brings me more near to understanding what you mean, I know that I used to think of dominant people being asexual in my phantasies, I guess because I considered it as some sort of power not to need arousal or such things. Nearly nobody wants to be someone others slave, except if they something, like arousal or connected stuff, makes them want it.įor dominance it's the same. People don't do fetish stuff just because that stabilizes or calms down, cause it usually does. Gives needed structure and control to a chaotic life.

Dominance and submission can be calming and stabilizing.